If a Christ-centered, positive relationship develops, then you might move to cautious displays of affection such as hand-holding.But be alert to the difference between appropriate affection and intimacy. Plan the entire evening in advance, with no big gaps.She grew up in a liberal agnostic family, and is today a career woman with a high power job, a successful husband, and a young child.We talked about relationships and my background, and I asked her a few questions.A good deal of the pain we feel in our day to day lives comes from unmet expectations.As an example, if my husband doesn’t put his dirty clothes in the hamper I become upset, but only because I expect him to put them in the hamper. The same is true, for example, of my parents: they feel a great deal of pain today because I didn’t live up to their expectations as an adult daughter.To get really practical, avoid French kissing and petting—anything that is sure to ignite the fires of passion. Feeding your thought life with junk only makes it harder to remain pure in your actions. Decide where you're going to draw the line, and tell God that with his help, you are not going to cross that line until marriage. The Bible says it's a serious thing to make a vow to God.
Similarly, he is not upset by the fact that she dated around and had sex before he met her.
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality” (1 Thessalonians 4:3). You can enjoy fun, positive friendships with people of the opposite sex and be involved in all sorts of activities without coupling up with one person. God says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers . When we put ourselves in an ungodly atmosphere with ungodly people we are influenced toward ungodliness.
If you do choose to date, the following guidelines can help you maintain a walk with God and guard your purity. “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character’” (I Corinthians ). Realize your date is your brother or sister in Christ—not your “lover.” “Treat older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity” (1 Timothy 5:2).
Have you ever started a new dating relationship with every good intention to pursue sexual purity, yet within a few weeks you cross a line you promised you never would?
Are you currently in a dating relationship and your purity is hanging on for dear life, with too many close calls with your boyfriend/girlfriend every date night?